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Two Choices

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”

Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.” I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept his complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose
the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situations a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business, he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gun point by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he said, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.” I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything.

‘Yes,’ I replied.

The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’
Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.” Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

You have 2 choices now:
Decide to live your life like Jerry.
Decide to have an amazing attitude.

The Right Choices

I must own my own fears before I can let them go. Courage follows
closely on their departing footsteps.

Many of the things that you fear in your life are fears of your
choosing. Fear is nothing more than the lack of understanding. We fear
those things we know nothing about, things we’ve never done before or
things we don’t understand. You fear them because you don’t have
enough information about these things. You assume that it must be this
or that and in the assumption and often quick judgment a mental block
or fear develops. Given enough of these and you stop growing, you
stop learning and worse, you fear life.

You may even assume that these fears are a permanent part of you, but
they are not.

Sure it takes some effort to learn about new things. Yet that choice
is available to you. Once you choose to begin and learn about
something new, a whole lot more will suddenly pop into view. This
understanding (or enlightenment) will change not only you and your
life but will give you a sense of freedom from your fears.

Yes, it takes time and commitment to overcome a fear. Once you do it,
though, you’ll feel like you can take on just about any fear,
challenge or any obstacle in your life and you’ll be right.

Think about who you really are, think about and envision what you
truly want to become and what God wants you to do with your life. Let
God’s vision for your life, become your vision for your life. By
following God’s vision of who you can be, you’ll learn to grow in God.
Before you know it, you’ll look back and be amazed at how much your
faith has grown. How much you’ve grown.

Life can be easy, haphazard and empty, or it can be focused, directed
and full. The choices you make will make you who you choose to be.