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Don’t Steal from Your Kids by Giving Them too Much

I know a loving mom who does just about everything to make sure her kids are happy every second of the day. If there isn’t the type of food they like in the fridge, she runs to the store to buy it. Whenever the newest electronic device comes out, she makes sure they’re the first to own it.

Of course, she refrains from requiring any chores out of them, because she knows they work hard at school. Besides, it upsets them when she asks them to help.

Unfortunately, and unintentionally, mom is stealing from her children. They are two of the most miserable human beings on earth. They walk around; actually they sit around most of the time, with scowls on their faces. Because mom has stolen their self-esteem and gotten them hooked on stuff, nothing seems to bring happiness or contentment. Everything is “stupid” or “boring.”

When we train our kids to believe that getting stuff is the key to happiness, might we be stealing their lifelong joy and sense of fulfillment? In our CD, From Innocence to Entitlement, we teach that true contentment comes from earning things rather than being showered with them.

To protect your children from this type of insidious theft, experiment with the following:

  • The next time your child wants something, ask, “How do you think you might earn that?”
  • Instead of taking on the problem of affording the item, say, “You may have that as soon as you can afford it.”
  • Give them some ideas about how they might earn the required cash, and give yourself a pat on the back for not giving in.
  • Notice how proud they are when they earn things through good old-fashioned perspiration.
[Jim Fay]

Up There

An architect dreams of designing skyscrapers, but is assigned to draw mud huts.

A composer yearns to write symphonies, but is hired only to pen beer commercial music.

Heaven is a world of limitless self-fulfillment. All we do, every gift and talent will be elevated to a capacity beyond our comprehension.

Billy Graham had a friend passing through difficulty. One day he passed a church construction site. “What are you doing?” he asked a stone cutter.

“See that little opening up near the steeple? I’m shaping this down here so it will fit up there.”

God is shaping you “down here” so you will fit “up there”.

Heavenly Rates

A man dies and goes to heaven. Of course, St. Peter meets him at the pearly gates.

St. Peter says, "Here’s how it works. You need 100 points to make it into heaven. You tell me all the good things you’ve done, and I give you a certain number of points for each item, depending on how good it was. When you reach 100 points, you get in."

"Okay," the man says, "I was married to the same woman for 50 years and never cheated on her, even in my heart."

That’s wonderful," says St. Peter, "that’s worth three points!"

"Three points?" he says. "Well, I attended church all my life and supported its ministry with my tithe and service."

"Terrific!" says St. Peter, "that’s certainly worth a point."

"One point? Golly. How about this: I started a soup kitchen in my city and worked in a shelter for homeless veterans."

"Fantastic, that’s good for two more points," he says.

"TWO POINTS!!" the man cries, "At this rate the only way I get into heaven is by the grace of God!"

"Come on in!"